Of course, I understood the implication of having a website, but I needed to figure out what it took to get people’s attention. I thought I’d post a few blog posts, and voila! Audience!Instead, what I found out was that everyone (all the self-proclaimed experts) advised doing videos. And who was I not to listen to the self-proclaimed experts?So I watched vlogs, courses, and live videos. I put myself in their shoes and pretended my life was on display for the world.It didn’t take long before I realized it was unfathomable for me. I had one thing to deal with that most of them didn’t seem to have…social anxiety.

I told myself, “I’m not that person…I don’t have the personality… I’m boring.”

All I could do was envy them. Envy their comedy, their skits, and their confidence to be themselves. So I stopped watching because I felt inferior, and there’s no worse feeling than feeling inadequate and helpless about it.But then, just at the right moment, an acquaintance of mine did a Facebook Live, which had a massive effect on me.She said this verbatim:

“I admit that I’m scared. Scared, embarrassed, guilty and ashamed. Doing this scares me, makes me uncomfortable and makes me want to stop and run away. This is exactly the reason I need to post this.”

I imagined being her, sitting on the floor, looking into the camera, and uttering those exact words, with trembling lips and a shaky voice.

I finally understood the power of sharing something that utterly scares you. It makes people even more inclined to listen to your story.

After all, don’t we all share the same hopes and dreams? Seeing her open up to her closest friends and possibly a few strangers made me see her differently.I was proud of her. It made me want to be proud of myself too. More so, it gave me a tiny boost of confidence that I, too, had it in me to take that first step and seize the opportunity to put myself on social media.

I had to live up to my motto, “Every day, do something that makes you uncomfortable.” But where to start?

Opening up to the world was probably the most uncomfortable and unnatural thing for me. But I knew that if I put myself on social media, I’d be rewarded in many unforeseen, such as:

• My personal growth growing significantly
• Opportunities springing up to connect with like-minded people
• The universe supporting my new ventures

I reminded myself, “if I don’t get out of my shell and remain scared to put myself on social media, I won’t follow through with my passion for helping others.”It’s a sacrifice I knew I had to make.You either seize the opportunity to expand, or you continue living comfortably within the confines of your walls. I wanted to expand. If you do, too, then read on.

How to put yourself on social media even if you have social anxiety:

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1. Have a goal to post just one video/post/story

On my life’s top 10 list of “things I’ll never do” was making videos.Once the seed is planted, it will take several months before you’re mentally ready. You don’t just go from wanting to post to do it. It can get pretty overwhelming fast. Here’s what I think you should do.Please feel free to use my example below and tweak it for whatever post you have in mind (it doesn’t have to be a video), or add any additional steps necessary in between.

Here’s how you can reduce the cringe:

• Practice with the camera. This means getting acquainted with the features. Find a location to place it, preferably with a lot of light to give you excellent quality from the get-go.
• Record a short video, maybe just introducing yourself (if that’s even too much, maybe use a b-roll of you walking around and add text on top of it). Remember, the goal is to start posting and getting comfortable with that.
• Once you’re ready to test out the waters, you can do any of the following to reduce the social anxiety of putting yourself out there: 1. create a separate account no one will find you under 2. post at a ridiculous time when most people won’t even see it 3. post it and disable the comments.

Take some time in between posts. You don’t have to do one every day. What you do need to do is celebrate that you got over the most challenging part!Getting started is where most people fail. How often have you had a brilliant idea, letting it slip away because you didn’t know where to start? It happens to the best of us.It doesn’t matter what your first post is about as long as it’s there. A permanent record on a remote server with your name on it.

2. Batch your content (remove the friction)

So that you create consistency and frequency.If like me, you want to grow your social media presence and online business or reach influencer status, the truth is that you need to post regularly. This goes for any platform you choose.If you’re ready to have a social media presence, then you need to find a way to nurture it consistently. This isn’t a one-post-and-done. If you have a vision of getting viral, I suggest you get it out of your head. Even if it happens, imagine the work you need to put in to back it up!Batching your content will help you because instead of worrying about what to post and wracking your brain for insightful knowledge, you lay out your weekly content calmly.This will also give you enough time to think about how your captions, themes, and pictures are in alignment.Take the guesswork and craziness out of posting your social media content, and you’ll notice it will help you tame your negative thoughts.

Here’s why batching reduces social anxiety:

• Gives you time to think about what you want to post (and to re-work it as the days go by).
• Takes away the pressure of creating content on the spot (which, to be fair, might not be the best quality).
• Incorporates a personal brand strategy because you’re looking ahead at your content (that helps you see if it’s valuable for your audience).

This is not a necessary step but will alleviate much of the stress you have over putting yourself on social media.

3. Join several Facebook groups

To test out your content and designs before launching them.You can honestly find any medium to do this in. I think you should find a private closed group so that it’s more personal and where the people are prone to kindness.I do NOT recommend a public discussion board. You might as well post your content directly to your social media account. Both will give you the same level of anxiety.If you’re also a type-A personality, you probably want to know the peace of mind that everything is buttoned up before you hit publish.The last thing you want to happen is to be misunderstood. To avoid that, seek out initial reactions to your content in a Facebook group to determine whether it makes sense.

This helps in two ways:

• Since you don’t want anyone to misinterpret your thoughts, it helps to gather valuable feedback to work with.
• By first sharing your thoughts with a smaller audience, you can manage your anxiety and exposure level.

My inner struggle had always been wanting to post personal thoughts and stories but being terrified of the feedback (aka trolls). Doing so in a safe space where everyone constantly asked for feedback lessened the blow.

Those are the three things I did to put myself on social media, even with social anxiety.

If, like me, you have a strong pull to connect with people on the other side of the screen, then you need to find a way to override the fear and the social anxiety of doing so. This is the time (right now!) to sit down with yourself and decide what your priority is.Is protecting your ego from being bruised more important than impacting someone’s life?Your fear and hesitancy are actually secondary to the great benefits of making yourself known to the world. I knew that if I put myself on social media, there was a great chance that I’d be able to reach someone that needed to hear what I had to say.You’re much more capable and braver than you tell yourself you are.

We need to hear what you have to say.